Sometimes In Marriage You Must Agree To Disagree

Sometimes in marriage you must agree to disagree. This is always what I have believed. Just because your married to someone you love does not mean you have to have the same beliefs and thoughts. And I can assure you, in our marriage, we disagree about a few things but this one main topic I was determined to win….it all started about 8 years ago. Our disagreement was and still to this day about dishwashers.Seriously, not money, not where we vacation, not lack of communication….simply dishwashers! I feel they are the most useless appliance in a household. Here is where this all started.

Twenty-two years ago we bought our house and it came with our first ever dishwasher. I was excited.Then maybe two years after it started to leak. And sometimes finding a leak in a dishwasher takes awhile, so by the time you figure it out you have floor damage….thankfully we found ours fairly quickly. We repaired this one, this time. Then a year after this the entire dishwasher was junk for some reason that I don’t recall. OK, so we go buy another one. Four years after this one is purchased, this one is junk. I even called a repair man….which let me assure you, rarely happens in my house since my husband can fix almost anything. This guy, the repairman, assures me it is junk and tells me to buy a new one. We buy another dishwasher. Then, like always, while my husband is traveling for work this dishwasher also springs a leak. I call him, tell him, and he says I will look at it when I get home. OK, I stop using it and wash dishes by hand until he returns. No big deal! Well, he traveled for two weeks with work and I really learned that doing dishes was seriously not that bad. I could wash them, they would dry quickly, and I could have them all put away in a few minutes…..compared to the hour it took for the dishwasher to wash, dry, and then be emptied. That is after you find at least one, usually more, dishes that did not get cleaned. OMG, this used to drive me insane….I remember it like it was yesterday.

So this is where the argument starts…..he got home, looked at it and said, oh I can fix it it’s no big deal. I said, you know what, I don’t want it fixed. Let’s just do dishes by hand since it’s so much faster. He looked at me like…what…are you serious…or just crazy??? I laughed and said….don’t fix it, because if you do your wasting your time, I am not going to use it anymore anyhow. And he knows not to second guess me, what I say I mean with all my heart and soul. I was done being the dishwasher queen….I was now converted to the dish washing queen. So he did as asked and left it.

And here we are today, after getting a quote from a professional to remove the dishwasher and make it back into storage space a few weeks ago….which my husband is the one that told me to get this professional quote, I did as I was told. I knew exactly what would come of this but I did what he asked. I then emailed him at work with the quote and waited patiently for his response. I would love to repeat what he sent me but let’s just say this is what has been happening in my kitchen since this email.

It began with a plan scribbled out by MY personal repair man…my husband!

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Then we hashed around a few ideas and before I knew it the dishwasher was out of it’s hole and was history.

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Wood was cut, drilling was happening, and saw dust was now starting to cover my house.

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That all took about 3 hours on a Sunday. Then it was time to go back to work for the week and I was left with a hole for the time being.

That is until an ice storm happened on a Tuesday where both my husband and son were home from work for the day……however, I still had to work.(Remember: I work from home with my in home daycare)

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You can only imagine that I knew what he would want to do on his day off….which was work on the cabinet. Which meant that I would have to try and keep children out of his way and still function in the kitchen during breakfast, lunch, and snack times. Ugggg, this would be like me trying to make a chocolate cake with icing and sprinkles on his work bench while he is trying to work. Yeh, not a good thought but we made it work. Thankfully, he loves children and has learned how to have an enormous amount of patience from having so many in our home for so many years.

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He even made time for a quick break taken at snack time to keep his “little supervisor” happy since he promised her he would make popcorn after nap. Plus, this snack takes a good amount of time to eat with little fingers which meant he managed to get all but the staining done on the new cabinets on his day off.

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The finished results are wonderful. I am so excited to have additional storage in a spot that has been wasted space for so many years. It’s been a long debate in our house…one that I would not budge on. I will never be the owner of another dishwasher.

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As for the argument of whether or not we need a dishwasher……apparently not!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ugga Mugga…..Another Long Week On My Own

This week was much like last week in that I was again, on my own all week. Hubby and I said goodbye to each other again Monday afternoon so he could catch his flight and I could face the week ahead on my own. Thankfully this does not happen too often with his job, but when it does it really rocks our world here at home. We rarely do anything apart, he is usually always home at the same time everyday and all my daycare children know when this time is, and honestly, it just makes life a bit crazy trying to work around when we can find the time to chat in between busy schedules. Add in a time difference (if any) depending on where he is compared to me here at home and it can get a little difficult…. I always pray I am the earlier time so I can go to bed at a normal hour.

Anyhow, like last week, I did what I wanted when I wanted to do it. Here is the outcome of my workouts this week:

Sunday: 1.5 mile walk

Monday: 3 mile walk together before dropping him at the airport, 30 minutes elliptical at the gym

Tuesday: gym:30 minutes elliptical and stretching

Wednesday:home: floor weight routine and 30 minute recumbent bike

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Thursday: gym: 30 minute elliptical, upper body weights, and stretching

Friday: rest

Saturday: rest…but a ton of big household chores…..scrub carpets, do loads and loads of laundry, and just hang out with my hubby who arrived home finally.

Meals were easy peasy since, for the most part, it was just me.  It sure makes grocery shopping much easier when its less mouths to feed. Here’s a peak at the meals from the week.

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Sunday: baked ham, roasted brussel sprouts, scalloped potatoes(family dinner)

Monday: philly cheese steak brat, sauteed perogies with spinach and bacon.

Tuesday: chicken and cheese quesadilla with stuffed poblano peppers(dinner with our son home)

Wednesday: sushi

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Thursday: bruschetta personal pizza

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Friday: out

Saturday: mom’s day off….fend for yourself

The week as a whole….I would say was pretty good. I love being back at the gym. Renovations there are almost complete and I am pretty excited to hear we will be getting kettle bells soon. I love kettle bells and wish I had more at home, so this is something I am really looking forward to having access to at the gym.

Life lately has been many unanswered questions…however, the one thing I am sure of is that winter is getting closer to making an arrival and I am preparing myself the best way I know how….I have a whole tub of hot chocolate, my Christmas list has an electric heated blanket on it, and I have stocked up on lip moisturizer….I literally have tubes of this stuff everywhere! The joys of frigid temperatures makes me want to cringe!!!!!

 

 

 

What It’s Like Living With A Self Proclaimed GEEK

Over twenty years ago I stood in a church and was married to the love of my life. We had known each other for quite some time before tying the knot but it’s over these last 20+ years I have learned how much I did not know about my husband.

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Through job changes, having a child, deaths, buying a house, numerous home/vehicle repairs, caring for each other in times of sickness, panic attacks on mountain tops, to days where I just could not imagine having to wake up to another day covered in snow….we have stood my each other through it all. I have changed, he has changed and we have changed as a couple….but the one thing that has not changed is his self proclaimed title of being a GEEK. He has been known, for as long as I have known him, to be called by anyone and everyone for help with any type of project. And let me tell you, his brain never, and I mean NEVER, stops thinking. And this is the one thing that DRIVES ME CRAZY. He knows so much about off the wall things that it is amazing. But ask him to stop and pick up milk on his way home from work…..and its likely not going to happen without a reminder. Frustrating, it is, but I have learned to love what he can do since he does it so well. Here is a bit of what living with a GEEK looks like on a daily basis in my home.

He can build almost anything from scrap…..balance beams for my daycare kids,

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kayak trailers,

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to a fishing pole holder that attaches to his Jackson kayak with no holes drilled into the kayak itself.

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Oh, and don’t forget the organic fly swatter built one evening while sitting by the campfire.

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We have also had to try some of the strangest food and drinks. Some of the strangest being this crab looking thing

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to alligator sausage(YUCK, YUCK, AND YUCK AGAIN).

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And then don’t forget the celery soda…..this was, by far, the WORST!!!!

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He comes up with the some cheap ideas to store all our watercraft. This storage idea for “the Beast” cost us $7. Now, this I didn’t mind at all since I am quite frugal.

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He repaired my immobilization boot after hiking with it on a few trails with some funky smelling glue type material which in turn saved me $100 to buy a new one.

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And yes, even though not all his ideas work out as planned and there has been some failures and some bloodshed, for the most part he can fix, invent, make, and come up with a plan to do almost anything. At times as annoying as it is to watch this happen on a daily basis, I am proud to say that I am a pretty lucky person to be the one he choose to spend his life with. All in all, living with a self proclaimed GEEK is not so bad and when it is there is always wine.

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Together We Can Do Anything

I suppose it would be best to update you all on what’s been happening here with us.

If you have been following you know a few weeks ago my husband sustained a back injury and we have been waiting, wondering, and hoping for good news from the medical professionals. That wait is now over, we know what is wrong, what they wish to do to try and fix the problem, and we have also finally figured out what we want to do to fix the problem.

Without going into great detail, I will make this brief and simple. Our kayaks are hung, paddles stored, and all our kayaking equipment has been packed away for the summer and it’s not even the end of July! My husband has handed over his disc golf supplies to our son as an early birthday present since this will never be a possibility again. I will now be the person who carries the heavy pack when we hike. The weight machines at the gym will not be getting any use from him anytime soon if ever again and his primary place of exercise happens in a physical therapy room 2x’s a week for the unforeseeable future. His pain is controlled and for this we are thankful. Although, their plan of attack and our plan of attack are completely different. For now, he is very limited on what he can and cannot do. Thankfully some of the activities we do normally are very helpful for his recovery and we plan to continue all these with great hope of success. That being said, it’s a long recovery if even possible.

I have always believed that God does not give us more than we can handle. We are a very close couple and do almost everything together. Which means together I believe we can succeed at improving his condition without drastic measures that involve huge risks to his future. This is the road we have started to travel and my hope is that we eventually find the end. I know it going to be hard, long and sometimes no fun but together we can do anything. For now life must go on…..

I Vowed….In Sickness and In Health

It has been a whirlwind week here at our house and I am preparing myself for it to continue for a while longer.

About a week ago my husband woke me in the early morning hours in severe pain. Without going into great detail, we ended up with the day off and me accompanying him to a few doctors offices throughout that day. By the end of the day he had a diagnosis, treatment plan, and some medications for his pain.

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Which brings us to today. Thankfully he is finding relief with the treatment and medication. Although, since this all came about he has noticed an issue that may last a lifetime and could be debilitating for his future. Which leaves me, as his wife, wanting to do anything possible to find a way for him to live happily doing what he loves to do and for us to be able to do it together. Again, at this stage of the ailment we are still hoping it resolves itself after the initial injury is healed but we just won’t know until it happens, if it happens.

For now, I’ll be honest, I am finding it hard to keep up with life. He is on weight restriction, which leaves almost everything to me with help from our son when he is around. I have found myself stress eating, which I hate to do so much. I have found myself back at the gym a few times already just to get in a good sweat and relieve some stress. I have talked with so many medical professionals in the last week that I often wonder if I could not be a doctor myself. Training for our upcoming trip has totally fallen off the agenda of things to do. However, we have been walking, which is something he was told to do to aid in his recovery along with foam rolling, water exercise, and stretching.

Our summer plans have been adjusted as much as possible. My son and I have already talked about how we will adapt our hiking vacation to make it easier on my husband if there is no improvement before then. And we have a few more doctor visits coming up and a few more tests scheduled that will hopefully give us answers we don’t have right now.

Until all this is resolved I plan to continue blogging but posts could be more sporadic at best. You will not see any kayaking adventures since that is on his “don’t do it list”. Although, we have and will be spending more time on the water with my SUP board. We have already bought him a new water toy(a big floating noodle) so he is able to enjoy the water with us and aid in his recovery all at the same time. He is not completely thrilled with the idea of no kayaking/SUP but in time I believe he will be back to paddling again.

For now I leave you all with one thought…..be thankful for good health!

 

 

 

Thermostat vs. Remote

We have had the most unbelievable weather this week. Highs reached the 50’s everyday which for me was pure heaven.

I dug out the screens and installed them on all the windows because this is the time of year I love to air out our house and breathe fresh air. My husband on the other hand can’t stand it when I turn off the heat and open everything up. He says its best to leave the heat on and house closed up so when it does drop low enough to turn back on it will not have to work as hard to heat everything back up again. Needless to say, we completely disagree. Actually, whether he is right or wrong, I don’t truthfully care. He has always and will always be in control of one thing in our home, the remote. I have always and will always be in control of one thing in our home, the thermostat. When I don’t like what he’s watching on television, I find something better to do, which is often. If he does not like the temperature of our home, he can put on more clothes or go drive around with the heat on.

Moving on.

We did so much this week that by Wednesday morning I was feeling every muscle and joint in my entire body. Vitamin I (Ibuprofen) was my best friend and my husband said that maybe I had a sunshine hangover. I was ok with that. It’s better than any other kind of hangover I have had in my life. My daycare kids and I played outside every single day this week. Even though we are limited to mainly the driveway because our lawn is so wet, it was still so much fun. Chalk drawings cover my driveway again, we blew bubbles, rode bikes, etc. Even my infants are enjoying the nice weather. I will admit, our routine of getting ready and making it outside in under a half hour needs some work. I am totally out of practice when it comes to dressing two infants, one three year old, and gathering all the supplies to make it outside without having to run back in for any forgotten items.

I am very happy to say I do believe our mall walking nights are over until next winter. We walked outside every night and I saw neighbors that I have not seen in months. Our son visited a local recreation trail one night and came home reporting that it is clear of snow and ice which put another smile on my face. Maybe it’s time to head out to our favorite trails this weekend.

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I hesitate to say that hopefully winter has come to an early end and maybe this year we will see summer earlier than last summer. Even though I feel rough and should rest up this weekend for the week ahead I know that will never happen. If all goes according to planned I hope to meet up with a friend for a walk, maybe hit a few tennis balls with my hubby or even try hiking if the trails aren’t too muddy. My boys are already debating removing the kayaks from their storage area and going for a quick paddle. BRRRRRR I also heard my son has already scoped out a local park to see if the disc golf nets have been reinstalled. (Which they have)

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So what we do this weekend is totally up in the air but you can bet Monday will be a slow, tired, achy kind of day after a very busy weekend. If none of this works out I would be perfectly happy just to clean the garage. It’s not a fun job but at least it’s outside:)

 

Do you and your spouse fight over the remote/thermostat?

Who wins?