Sometimes In Marriage You Must Agree To Disagree

Sometimes in marriage you must agree to disagree. This is always what I have believed. Just because your married to someone you love does not mean you have to have the same beliefs and thoughts. And I can assure you, in our marriage, we disagree about a few things but this one main topic I was determined to win….it all started about 8 years ago. Our disagreement was and still to this day about dishwashers.Seriously, not money, not where we vacation, not lack of communication….simply dishwashers! I feel they are the most useless appliance in a household. Here is where this all started.

Twenty-two years ago we bought our house and it came with our first ever dishwasher. I was excited.Then maybe two years after it started to leak. And sometimes finding a leak in a dishwasher takes awhile, so by the time you figure it out you have floor damage….thankfully we found ours fairly quickly. We repaired this one, this time. Then a year after this the entire dishwasher was junk for some reason that I don’t recall. OK, so we go buy another one. Four years after this one is purchased, this one is junk. I even called a repair man….which let me assure you, rarely happens in my house since my husband can fix almost anything. This guy, the repairman, assures me it is junk and tells me to buy a new one. We buy another dishwasher. Then, like always, while my husband is traveling for work this dishwasher also springs a leak. I call him, tell him, and he says I will look at it when I get home. OK, I stop using it and wash dishes by hand until he returns. No big deal! Well, he traveled for two weeks with work and I really learned that doing dishes was seriously not that bad. I could wash them, they would dry quickly, and I could have them all put away in a few minutes…..compared to the hour it took for the dishwasher to wash, dry, and then be emptied. That is after you find at least one, usually more, dishes that did not get cleaned. OMG, this used to drive me insane….I remember it like it was yesterday.

So this is where the argument starts…..he got home, looked at it and said, oh I can fix it it’s no big deal. I said, you know what, I don’t want it fixed. Let’s just do dishes by hand since it’s so much faster. He looked at me like…what…are you serious…or just crazy??? I laughed and said….don’t fix it, because if you do your wasting your time, I am not going to use it anymore anyhow. And he knows not to second guess me, what I say I mean with all my heart and soul. I was done being the dishwasher queen….I was now converted to the dish washing queen. So he did as asked and left it.

And here we are today, after getting a quote from a professional to remove the dishwasher and make it back into storage space a few weeks ago….which my husband is the one that told me to get this professional quote, I did as I was told. I knew exactly what would come of this but I did what he asked. I then emailed him at work with the quote and waited patiently for his response. I would love to repeat what he sent me but let’s just say this is what has been happening in my kitchen since this email.

It began with a plan scribbled out by MY personal repair man…my husband!

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Then we hashed around a few ideas and before I knew it the dishwasher was out of it’s hole and was history.

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Wood was cut, drilling was happening, and saw dust was now starting to cover my house.

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That all took about 3 hours on a Sunday. Then it was time to go back to work for the week and I was left with a hole for the time being.

That is until an ice storm happened on a Tuesday where both my husband and son were home from work for the day……however, I still had to work.(Remember: I work from home with my in home daycare)

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You can only imagine that I knew what he would want to do on his day off….which was work on the cabinet. Which meant that I would have to try and keep children out of his way and still function in the kitchen during breakfast, lunch, and snack times. Ugggg, this would be like me trying to make a chocolate cake with icing and sprinkles on his work bench while he is trying to work. Yeh, not a good thought but we made it work. Thankfully, he loves children and has learned how to have an enormous amount of patience from having so many in our home for so many years.

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He even made time for a quick break taken at snack time to keep his “little supervisor” happy since he promised her he would make popcorn after nap. Plus, this snack takes a good amount of time to eat with little fingers which meant he managed to get all but the staining done on the new cabinets on his day off.

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The finished results are wonderful. I am so excited to have additional storage in a spot that has been wasted space for so many years. It’s been a long debate in our house…one that I would not budge on. I will never be the owner of another dishwasher.

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As for the argument of whether or not we need a dishwasher……apparently not!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life Lately….

I have come to the conclusion in life that once one matter is handled the next big pressing situation is never very far behind.  It’s sort of like when you come into a bonus amount of money and you never quite know what to do with it….until…..the refrigerator decides to stop working in the middle of the night, the washing machine decides to spring a major leak during your last load of laundry, or you slip and fall on the ice and need an x-ray when your deductible is not met yet. Yeh, thankfully none of this has happened for us recently but just when things starting calming down after Christmas the next big thing(s) starting popping up. Let me catch you all up on life as it is here today.

We have our first glamping (glamorous camping) trip planned for 2018 and I am excited…very excited. Once again we are returning to what I consider is Wisconsins best state park….Devil’s Lake. We missed visiting this park last year and I really missed it. We have hiked Devil’s Lake every year for at least the past 5 years, but last year we skipped it due to other trips we had planned and we just could not fit it in anywhere. Plus, this year we are glamping for the first time ever with my brother and his family. We have cabins rented at our favorite nearby campground and we plan to campfire, hike, explore and celebrate springs arrival. No one will ever be as happy as I am when spring finally arrives!!!

I also am loving that my husband is finally getting some projects done that have been laying around waiting for completion for quite sometime. My brother, one year for Christmas, had some pictures made up into puzzles for us. Once they were assembled my husband thought it would be cool to glue them and make red rock frames to go with the red rock theme of the puzzles. I agreed, then life happened, and they sat there. Well, they are now completed and I love them. Now we just have to figure out where to hang them.

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I have now expanded my cookbook selection to include one more clean eating/plant based cookbook to make meal planning easier. Since cutting out artificial sweetener in all our diets and with the amazing success my husband has had with this change, I am now finding it much harder to make casseroles. And casseroles were my “go to” for an easy make ahead and throw in the oven meal in the winter months. However, I am really finding plant based meals to be fulfilling and much less work than I ever imagined. Plus, my grocery bill is pretty nice also.

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I do have to give a shout out to my other half lately. It’s been one of those winters where everything keeps breaking. Nothing huge but big enough that thankfully with his repair skills he has saved us so much money just this year alone so far. I love having my own maintenance man in the house. Some people marry for money, some marry for love, I married for love and the money he saves us.

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And last but not least, the one big thing I have been working very hard on is our next big trip…the one where we are renewing our marriage vows for our 25th. anniversary this year. Do you know how difficult it is to find a minister that is willing to hike up to the top of a mountain to perform a renewal ceremony for this occasion? Well, I can tell you how difficult it is……VERY DIFFICULT!!!! However, I found one, we have talked with him and explained how important it is for him to make this trek for us, and he assures me he can do this as long as we are not trail runners and plan to race up the mountain. I promised him we could take as long as he needed to arrive safely at the top and for him to grant us his services. Now I just have to figure out a proper tip to give this gentleman since he is clearly putting his life on the line to make our wishes come true. I cannot wait to say “I Still Do” to the one I love in a place that brought such happiness to us the first time we saw it.

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What would you tip the minister in this situation? I would be grateful for your suggestions.

 

How We Made Curtains For Our SUV For Camping Privacy

Recently, I was left home alone…with plenty of time on my hands…..and so much to think about. This is never good since I can come up with some crazy ideas sometimes. Although, I don’t think this one was all that crazy.

I decided I wanted to make curtains for my SUV since we loved sleeping in it for camping this past spring. So as always I did some research, went in the garage and sat inside my vehicle and thought….and thought hard. Then I made a few notes leaving them out where I knew my husband would see them when he returned home from his fishing trip and I would be sound asleep. I do this so my crazy ideas don’t come as a complete shock to him when I approach the subject….haha! And sure enough it worked….come morning he immediately asked what all the measurements were and why was the roll of twine out. I simply told him I was experimenting with the twine and have decided that we are going to make curtains for the SUV today. He, as usual, looked at me and said ok…tell me more. And as you can imagine….I did tell him more and an hour later we headed to the hardware store.

First, I had thought about buying fabric for the actual curtains but I do not sew. Never have and I have no interest in learning. Plus, I wanted to do this as cheap as possible with no drilled holes or any damage done to my vehicle. Then I remembered I had a dark colored single sized sheet downstairs that was a spare. It would be perfect. I measured it, laid it out, and simply cut it in half the long way.

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We got really lucky with the sheet having overlapping sewn edges. This way we could thread some paracord through here to be our so called curtain rod.

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However, I did have to cut the corners to allow for the cord to come through. So what I did was cut the ends and then quickly hand sew through the original seems so they would not unravel. Not pretty, I know, but it will work.

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With the cord through both sides we then moved out to the SUV and started making the anchor points where the curtains would hang from. My SUV has these round hooks in the back of both sides that we believe are for a cargo net that I do not have. So these two hooks are going to be used for one end of the curtain anchor on each side.

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The front anchor will be the visor on each side. We simply tied a loop that will stay attached and made a loop in one end of the cord and attached a carabiner for easy hookup and removal.

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Then when both ends are secured we simply loop the middle over the garment hook on each side.

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Add a solar shield to the front window and it was time to install and see how it all comes together.

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The curtain easily slides on the paracord to leave in more light or less. And with a metal paper clip it can be attached easily to the edge of the solar shield for extra darkness and privacy.

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It’s lightweight and easy to remove.Simply unclip the front carabiners and unhook the back two cords clipping the metal paper clips to these so they cannot pull back through the curtain then fold and store. Simple, cheap, and super easy…just the way I like it.

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I do believe I will leave the tiny side windows near the back uncovered for some daylight and just to be able to see if any creatures of the wild wander into our campsites at night. Someday I really hope to see a bear! Even though we don’t plan to cover these small windows they are still tinted glass so we will still have plenty of privacy. The back hatch window we are thinking of using poster board to just cover this area if anything. Again, it’s tinted darker and we always back into a sight so privacy in the back of the SUV is usually never an issue.

Now all I have to do is wait until I can go camping and try them out. That probably will not happen until September. Until then I will live with memories of the first time we slept in the back of our SUV.

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What It’s Like Living With A Self Proclaimed GEEK

Over twenty years ago I stood in a church and was married to the love of my life. We had known each other for quite some time before tying the knot but it’s over these last 20+ years I have learned how much I did not know about my husband.

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Through job changes, having a child, deaths, buying a house, numerous home/vehicle repairs, caring for each other in times of sickness, panic attacks on mountain tops, to days where I just could not imagine having to wake up to another day covered in snow….we have stood my each other through it all. I have changed, he has changed and we have changed as a couple….but the one thing that has not changed is his self proclaimed title of being a GEEK. He has been known, for as long as I have known him, to be called by anyone and everyone for help with any type of project. And let me tell you, his brain never, and I mean NEVER, stops thinking. And this is the one thing that DRIVES ME CRAZY. He knows so much about off the wall things that it is amazing. But ask him to stop and pick up milk on his way home from work…..and its likely not going to happen without a reminder. Frustrating, it is, but I have learned to love what he can do since he does it so well. Here is a bit of what living with a GEEK looks like on a daily basis in my home.

He can build almost anything from scrap…..balance beams for my daycare kids,

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kayak trailers,

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to a fishing pole holder that attaches to his Jackson kayak with no holes drilled into the kayak itself.

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Oh, and don’t forget the organic fly swatter built one evening while sitting by the campfire.

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We have also had to try some of the strangest food and drinks. Some of the strangest being this crab looking thing

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to alligator sausage(YUCK, YUCK, AND YUCK AGAIN).

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And then don’t forget the celery soda…..this was, by far, the WORST!!!!

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He comes up with the some cheap ideas to store all our watercraft. This storage idea for “the Beast” cost us $7. Now, this I didn’t mind at all since I am quite frugal.

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He repaired my immobilization boot after hiking with it on a few trails with some funky smelling glue type material which in turn saved me $100 to buy a new one.

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And yes, even though not all his ideas work out as planned and there has been some failures and some bloodshed, for the most part he can fix, invent, make, and come up with a plan to do almost anything. At times as annoying as it is to watch this happen on a daily basis, I am proud to say that I am a pretty lucky person to be the one he choose to spend his life with. All in all, living with a self proclaimed GEEK is not so bad and when it is there is always wine.

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